She had the perfect wedding dress picked out, had chosen the date and reserved the facility, and among other things had handpicked all the bridesmaids to be in her perfect wedding. All the details had been carefully thought out and planned. The only problem is – her groom-to-be was still married! Yes, you read what you thought you read – her fiancé was already married.
Several years ago, I was visiting with a dear friend and she shared with me that she had just witnessed an unbelievable chain of events unfold as she was one of the bridesmaids. She explained that a friend, had asked her to be in her wedding – she willingly accepted. Purchased a bridesmaid dress, helped plan and attended the bridal shower – but she like many others, were asking the excited bride-to-be, “who is your fiancé? Who is the lucky man?! Do we know him, have we ever seen him?” The bride-to-be was super secretive about her groom-to-be and for good reason. Many bridesmaids speculated that he was a professional athlete or famous entertainer, others wondered, was he in the military away at war. When his identity was finally revealed a couple of weeks before the wedding was supposed to take place, everyone was shocked and appalled to learn that her “fiancé” was already happily married.
As friends pressed her for answers, the bride-to-be asserted that she was believing God that this man was going to get a divorce and ask her to marry him. As close friends of the bride-to-be learned more and more details of the story, they asked does he know any of this? Her response was, “no, I ‘m believing God.” Needless to say, the wedding did not take place and the “fiancé” asserted that he loved his wife and had no intentions of divorcing her – to say that he was shocked and appalled at what he learned is an understatement.
When I was single and believing God for a husband, I actually had picked out the colors that I wanted, knew that I wanted to have a small intimate ceremony and actually had a wedding dress. The dress was by default because I was engaged, purchased a dress – then became unengaged and could not sell the dress.
What are your thoughts? How far is too far when a single woman begins to plan the details of her wedding, but has no fiancé?